In this land of having to be seen doing the most, and being a “go-getter,” I’d like to impart a little something I learned about being successful (read: happy). It’s pretty simple, really; don’t do anything you don’t want to do. Living in the wake of video music award show performance disasters intended to shock and awe (…and disrespect and dehumanize, but I digress), I wonder if we have lost our sense of self-advocacy.
It is so easy to get wrapped up in getting ahead that we don’t remain true to ourselves. Whether that’s skipping that class where agents are scouting in order to take care of yourself and your body, or saying thanks but no thanks to any number of situations, not doing is just as important as doing. The person you live with today is the same person you must live with tomorrow. The only thing that separates the two is the choices you make. It is your choice to listen to people who want to bring you down; it is your choice to run from what makes you happy; and it is your choice to live for yourself. I am learning to choose wisely.
But let’s not get too carried away with our not doing, though. Putting in the time, effort, and hard work, when you could be lying on the couch drinking fruit punch (why fruit punch, you ask? I don’t know) separates you from the things you want and the things you achieve. Sometimes getting closer to your goals means sacrificing a little of your sleep, time with friends, treats for yourself. But it should be worth it if your goals are worth it. Success is fulfilling your purpose in a manner that upholds your dignity and individuality.
May you find success in your own way, for yourself.